Lilli Logan Arader, LCSW

Welcome. This is a space for people who feel therapy has only scratched the surface, or for whom traditional talk therapy hasn’t worked at all or has even caused harm. My work isn’t about helping you adjust to a world that doesn’t fit you. It’s about naming the outside pressures on your well-being and helping you return to your natural way of being.

Much of my practice is devoted to neurodivergent women and gender-nonconforming people. If that’s you, you can read more in the Neurodivergence tab above.

How I Work

I use “bottom-up,” body-based approaches, including EMDR, IFS, AEDP, and Somatic Experiencing. They aren’t about telling you what to do. Instead, they make room for your core self to come forward naturally, the way a plant grows or a spider spins its web.

Nervous System Attunement

In our sessions, I pay close attention to your nervous system. This lets me tune in to your experience with real precision, help you stay regulated, and process what your body is carrying as it comes up. You don’t have to hold the intensity alone. We navigate it together.

My Own Path

As a queer, gender-nonconforming, neurodivergent person, I know this work from the inside. I didn’t discover any of these parts of myself until later in life, after decades of trying to fit a mold that was never mine. Much of what gets called “the problem” isn’t a problem at all. It’s simply who you are, in a world that wasn’t built for it. The trauma isn’t in being you. It’s in all the years of being told not to be. Part of our work is untangling the two, so the parts of you that were labeled as damage can be recognized for what they are: you.

Authentic Alignment

My goal is to support your natural way of being, not to “fix” you. When we get to the root of what’s going on, the things that tend to get labeled anxiety, depression, OCD, or disordered eating often start to loosen on their own as they tend to be coping mechanisms for years of inauthenticity and unmet need.

I’m also not a blank-slate therapist. I don’t just nod and reflect things back. I show up as myself, as a real person in the room with you, what AEDP calls a “true other.” I laugh, sometimes I tear up, and I’ll tell you what I actually think. It’s a relationship between two people, not a performance.

I keep my practice small on purpose, so I can actually be there for the people I work with.